In case you haven’t noticed, I’m a nonconformist. When I was planning this website, there were certain things that I didn’t want to include. One thing that I didn’t feel like doing is putting a Frequently Asked Questions section (FAQ). I personally find them a bit too boilerplate. I worry about possibly sending the message that I don’t want to be bothered with your questions.
I welcome your questions. I personally think that most questions are asked to find confirmation for yourself to validate what you already feel or know. This is okay. All I ask is for you not to make too many assumptions about me. In return, I’ll do my best to not assume anything about you.
I playfully have called this blog post, “Your Answers Questioned” to try to make you think about your assumptions and how they may not be true. I tend not to like to write blog posts about myself, but I’d like you to get to know me too.
The following approximate some questions that some have asked me on social media, in emails, or just in recent conversations. Don’t worry, I’m protecting the innocent by not revealing names, dates, or other facts that would identify the people. If you happen to see yourself within the following questions, this just means that others have asked too.
Aren’t you a bit young to write a self-help book?
This is such a compliment. Thank you! Years of clean living, healthy eating, exercise, and positive thinking have seemed to pay off for me. Although I think it’s a bit impolite to ask a woman her age, I’ll indulge you a little bit. I’m old enough to remember music on eight-track tapes. I was alive when the Berlin Wall fell. I attended the first releases of the Star Wars movies. As adults, most of us are old enough to have learned many life lessons, with wisdom that can be shared with others. My book A Rebel Chick Mystic’s Guide (coming out with Hay House in November 2012) is based on my healing work with women clients since 1998.
What’s with the “modern mystic” bit?
I interchangeably use the terms spiritual seeker, guru, spiritual teacher, spiritual guide, and mystic. I consider myself to be both a teacher and student of life. I like to learn and grow on all levels, whether it is physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual. The modern aspect comes from my desire to live of the world to learn my lessons. (I wouldn’t last long in an ashram anyway, since I love my Starbucks and attending concerts.) When I use the term “spiritual,” I’m not talking about religion. Spirituality is your unique path to discovering your inner self. Some call your inner self your spirit. I can’t define these terms for you personally, only being able to ask you questions or guide you to your own answers.
How can something harsh like rock and roll be considered “spiritual”?
Thanks for noticing that I’m a rocker chick. I mean this seriously. I can’t hide who I am, so I just show up as the true me. This includes me sharing my love of music. I enjoy most forms of music, not just rock and roll. (I grew up singing to Aretha Franklin records.) Everyone has their own ideas of what is spiritual. Variety is the spice of life.
Why do you cater so much to women in your work?
Yes, most of my coaching clients are women. This prevalence of female clients is not uncommon in the self-help and personal development fields from my experience. I do work with male clients, however. Most men have women in their lives. Many men I know have already pre-ordered my book, A Rebel Chick Mystic’s Guide for their female friends, sisters, spouses, and girlfriends.
How can rebellion be considered as a positive thing?
I write about the idea of positive rebellion in my book, A Rebel Chick Mystic’s Guide. It’s not the stereotypical form of rebellion that includes self-destruction. Positive rebellion, to me, is when you quit listening to your ego, that part of you that tells you that you are less than (or better than) someone else. For aeons, spiritual teachers in many traditions have talked about how to silence the ego. When you listen to your heart and spirit instead, it’s a way to rebel in a positive way. It’s also positive to rebel against limiting beliefs you’ve inherited from society or growing up, replacing them with positive, empowering ideas and an attitude of self-love.
Why are you so lighthearted and silly in your book trailer video?
I didn’t realize that I was that way. I’m just being me. I know that part of you wants me to maybe show up a bit more bad ass with a bit more swagger = more rebel-like in your mind? I have that dark, mysterious, stereotypically rebellious side too, but it comes out more when I have my guitar. I tend to see honoring one’s inner child as quite a rebellious act since the world can be a serious place at times, with expectations placed on us to be a certain way or “grown up.” Having fun is a necessity, at least in my own worldview. I care very much about helping others and sometimes, I’ve noticed that it’s the lighthearted, humorous energies that are needed most.
What is a rebel chick mystic?
This is an excellent question! I’ll be writing more about this subject in future blog posts. (Of course, if you read my book, you’ll get the details.) Rebel Chick Mystic is a term I coined for unconventional women who desire to carve out their own spiritual and life paths. I observed some common traits with hundreds, if not thousands of female clients of mine over the years. I also noticed that after many years, I found myself saying the same things over and over to clients in coaching sessions. I wanted to share this wisdom, so I wrote a book, to hopefully, help larger numbers of people with my message.
When is your book coming out?
My book is coming out November 26, 2012. Thanks for asking and for your support. You can pre-order it now, if you want too.
Well, there you have it, my FAQ. Feel free to email me with your questions. Feel free to ask me yours in the comments below. What burning questions do you have for me?
Thanks and blessings,
Lisa Marie Selow